Tools to coordinate parenting with clarity
Co-parent with more clarity and less friction
Review important messages before sending them and get a clearer interpretation when something doesn't add up. All inside a system designed for better coordination.
10 free rewrites per month. No credit card.
Clear, structured expenses between co-parents
Set split rules and close each month with a transparent balance.
Designed for real co-parenting rules, not for splitting a dinner.
They owe me
86.40 €
I owe them
42.15 €
All settled
0.00 €
Why it works
Write hot, send cold
Vent into the text box. We'll give you a version that says the same thing without giving the other side ammunition.
Decode what they send you
Passive-aggressive message from your ex? Paste it and we'll tell you what they really mean, what they're actually asking, and how to respond without escalating.
3 tones, you choose
Neutral for everyday stuff. Firm when you need to set a boundary. Conciliatory when it's time to compromise. Copy the one that fits.
Not Splitwise: built for families
This is not about splitting dinners with friends. It is designed for co-parenting: family expenses, who paid, and a clear balance between parents.
Dead simple
30 seconds between the anger and a decent message.
Paste the message
The one you were about to send or the one you just received. No filters, just let it out.
Rewrite or analyze
If it's yours, pick from 3 tones. If it's from your ex, we'll decode what they really mean and how to respond.
Copy and send
One click to copy. Paste it in WhatsApp, email, or wherever. Done.
Same message, without the poison
What you wanted to say is still there. Just how you say it changes.
What you typed at 11pm
“You always do the same thing, you never respect the schedule and the kids arrive without dinner. But of course, it's always about you.”
Neutral
“The last three times the kids arrived past the agreed time and without dinner. We need to adjust this so they have a stable routine.”
Firm
“The kids have arrived late and without dinner the last three times. The schedule we agreed on is 7pm with dinner done. If there's an issue meeting it, let me know and we'll talk, but I need it to be respected.”
Conciliatory
“I've noticed the kids have been arriving a bit late and without dinner lately. I know afternoons can be tough. Can we find a schedule that works better for you while making sure the kids' routine is covered?”
Understand what they're really saying
Paste the message you received and we'll help you read between the lines.
What you received
“Well, if you care so little about what goes on here, I'll just figure it out on my own like always. Don't bother coming on Saturday.”
Likely intention
Expressing frustration because they feel you're not involved enough. The passive-aggressive tone is a way of calling attention to a real problem.
What they're really asking
They need you to show more initiative and commitment with day-to-day logistics. They want to feel like they're not carrying everything alone.
How to respond
“I understand you feel alone with this and I'm sorry. Of course I'll be there Saturday. Is there anything else this week where I can help out?”
Why this exists
I built it because I needed it
I'm a divorced dad. I have shared custody and, like many, I know that feeling of writing a message at 11pm, rereading it, knowing you shouldn't send it like that... and sending it anyway.
Then comes the regret, the escalation, the screenshots, and weeks of tension. All because of a message you could have written differently.
And expenses create the same tension: who paid, who owes what, and what was agreed. Without a clear system, the argument comes back.
Kidflow was born from that. It's not a meditation app or a nonviolent communication course. It's a practical tool: you paste what you were about to send, it gives it back in a tone that doesn't set anything on fire, and you copy it. That's it.
Because your kids shouldn't pay the price for a badly written message.
Ricard
Dad, engineer, and founder of Kidflow
Everything you need to co-parent without drama
Two tools live today. More coming soon.
Message Rewriter
Rewrite messages to your ex in a neutral, firm, or conciliatory tone.
Intention Translator
Analyze messages from your ex: what they really mean, what they're actually asking, and how to respond.
Shared Expenses
Track kid-related expenses, split them, and keep score without arguments.
Shared Calendar
Shifts, pickups, holidays, and extras. Clear for both, no misunderstandings.
Agreements
Document agreements between both parents with date and confirmation. In writing.
AI Mediator
When you can't agree, the AI analyzes both positions and proposes solutions.
Frequently asked questions
No. Kidflow is a communication tool. It helps you rewrite messages, not make legal or emotional decisions. If you need a professional, consult a mediator or family lawyer.
No. Your ex has no access to your account or history. Your messages are stored so you can review them and so we can improve the service, but we don't share them with third parties or use them to train AI models.
The tool keeps the facts you write and changes the tone. It doesn't make things up or assume anything. If the result doesn't fit, you can edit it before sending — it's a draft, not a final message.
Yes. You get 10 free rewrites and 10 free translations every month. The counter resets on the first of each month. No credit card, no strings attached.
You paste the message you received from your ex and the AI analyzes it on three levels: what the likely intention is, what they're really asking for, and how you could respond without escalating the conflict.
Yes. Your messages are stored securely and only you can access them. We don't share data with third parties or use your messages to train AI models. You can request deletion of your account and data at any time.
Yes. Kidflow is a web app that works in any browser, on both mobile and desktop. No download needed.
The next message you send can be different
You don't need more scattered tools. You need a clear system.
10 rewrites per month. No credit card. No strings.